How Do I Decide Whether Or Not To Get An Abortion?

Dear Martha,

I find myself in a difficult situation because I have little time to make the decision whether or not to abort my pregnancy. I’m 18 years old and am about to start my career. My boyfriend does not want me to have the baby because we’re both very young and about to start our careers. We’re both students and do not work, and soon he’s moving away soon to another city.

I know that this is my responsibility, but I feel very alone and I have so many doubts about this decision. What do you think? I’m desperate.

— 18 & Desperate

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Dear 18 & Desperate,

The decision whether or not to have a child is among the most serious and involves great responsibility. Independent of what your boyfriend thinks, you need to think: If you were single would you have the baby? Which decision can you live with more peacefully? With a child? Or an abortion?

These are things that only a woman can make. Because whatever you decide will impact the future of your life. What strikes me is that you have yet to act, yet are asking me. It seems as though that, inside of yourself, you have already come to some sort of a decision. Take care of yourself and reach out for the support of an adult in whom you can trust.

Martha Sáenz is a life coach and hyponotherapist who lives in Los Angeles. If you have a question for Martha email her at marthalifecoach@gmail.com. Follow her on Twitter at @marthalifecoach