Give Your Children Boundaries Because You Love Them
The modern age has overwhelmed adults in the education of their children, confusing and misinforming them about which are the most “correct” and “best” ways to practice good parenting.
The State of California has tried to remedy this. On the one hand the rights of children and young people are protected, on the other it seems that protection has worked against them because the statistics show high numbers of: juvenile delinquency, alcoholism, early intercourse with consequent pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases, drug use and juvenile prostitution.
Parents do not cease to experience surprise and awe at the reality their children are living.
Given that their children are exposed to this way of life, parents can often feel defeated, or worse yet, if they are strict they feel like their hands tied by the fear of being reported by their own children. It’s a double-edged sword. Knowing that a single 911 call accusing their parents of extreme violence (physical or psychological, real or false) because we do not give our children what they want is leaves adults feeling vulnerable, frightened and confused. Without proper guidance on how to educate, and above all raise children with values, as respectful of their own bodies and ready to join a company with responsibility, they parents are still responsible for raising adults.
Parents or adults responsible for nurturing their children can start planning and project where they want their children to be when they grow up. They need to retain control, order and discipline as heads of the household and stop allowing the unacceptable conduct of their own children.
Stop allowing your children to copy or imitate the habits or behaviors that you as a parent do not agree with. Ultimately, you are the parent and you make the rules of the house. What’s more, you’re the one that largely controls the money, with the access to buy and control the consumption of things in your child’s life.
Do not fear your own children, ask and seek advice from professionals: social workers, police or teachers. How can you guide your children, and more than anything, minimize the risks they are exposed to in the world we live in? And don’t forget, set boundaries and limits in your home. Remember that no one will ever love your children more than you do.
Martha Sáenz is a life coach and hyponotherapist who lives in Los Angeles. If you have a question for Martha email her at marthalifecoach@gmail.com. Follow her on Twitter at @marthalifecoach
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