I’m 32 And All My Friends Are Married But Me

Dear Martha:

I’m 32 and all of my friends are getting married.  I’m depressed because I feel like I’ll never find a boyfriend. All I do is work and then go home. Can you help me?

– Hopeless and Single

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Dear Hopeless and Single:

What you need to realize is that you matter as an independent person whether or not you have a boyfriend. Focus on strengthening yourself as an individual and your self-esteem.  Start by developing activities that make you feel good.

Society and culture have conditioned people to believe that women can only be complete and happy if they are in a relationship.  But what do you think about yourself? What dreams and personal projects have you not yet completed? What do you think about women who aren’t in a relationship? If your depression continues, please get help.