I want to get back with my ex-girlfriend, but the day I went to tell her, she told me she was seeing someone else. I had a fit of jealousy, and since then she doesn’t talk to me or respond to my messages. It’s been two months and she’s the only thing I think about all day; not she says this guy is making her very happy.
The bigger problem is that my ex is also my best friend, that’s why the distance hurts me so much. I feel like I can’t live without her, I need her, and I’m willing to do anything for her to come back. I really love her.
— Desperately In Love
Dear Desperately In Love,
Your ex made her decision and you have to respect it. You need to learn to control your jealousy; more than love it appears you are obsessed with her, and that’s probably why she doesn’t want to be near you. The expression, “I’m willing to do anything for her to come back” is one that probably scares her and pushes her away more.
This does not speak highly of you and the fact that you are still pursuing her says two things about you: that you have emotional issues you need to resolve and you may be at risk of getting in trouble with the law.
You have to control your thoughts with respect to her and reflect on the fact that she’s not your property. You will never be her friend if you can’t control your possessive and controlling impulses. Unfortunately, sometimes things don’t go our way, but this is an opportunity for you to move past that. Reflect and think about your own life, a healthy person has a lot to offer.
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