May 22, 2013
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I’ve Learned To Love Babies, Now I’m Waiting Until I’m Ready

Sometimes it amazes me how much we’re ruled by biology. When I was younger, I would blatantly ignore any babies that I saw. It wasn’t that I was trying to be  rude, it was totally subconscious, because I didn’t realize I was doing it. I’d run into someone with their baby, and as I walked away, I’d realize that I had not at all acknowledged their offspring. Babies bored me. If my mom tried to pass me someone’s child (particularly if the baby was ugly), I would involuntarily grimace, politely decline, and walk away.

In my mid-twenties, however, this began to change. Now I can’t look at babies without wanting to tell them how cute they are, ask them about their favorite foods, and tell them I’d like to put them in a taco and eat them (some babies find this pretty funny.) Sometimes it’s so annoying that I want to punch myself in the uterus.

So why not just go ahead and crank some out? 

Well mostly it’s because there are so many things I want to accomplish before I do. I am determined to make a career out of my writing, in some form or other, before I commit to motherhood and that’s something that I won’t compromise. Not only do I work full time, I spend the rest of my time cramming writing into my life. There is no room in my schedule for a child. Not only that, I refuse to have a baby while working at a place that only grants two weeks’ maternity leave. I don’t want to have a child, only to dump it at day care for nine hours of the day. That sounds painful and I really feel for mothers who have to do this. Unfortunately, our capitalist system is incredibly hostile towards motherhood.

I know many people say that if God blesses with you with a baby, you will find a way to make it work. But I personally don’t want to “make it work” in undesirable conditions. And thankfully, we live during a time in which we have access to highly effective birth control and I can decide for myself whether or not I want a child (though these rights are constantly threatened). I know many unexpected children are, in fact, blessings — but let’s be honest with ourselves and acknowledge that this is not often the case. For instance, I can’t imagine that a pregnancy for an extremely impoverished mother who can barely feed her existing children would actually be cause for celebration. There are so many other situations in which an unplanned pregnancy would be devastating.

I resent being called “selfish” for thinking this way about motherhood. I also don’t feel that I should have to  justify my reproductive choices to anyone — no woman should. What is truly selfish is having unwanted children and treating them like garbage. What I’m trying to do is create ideal conditions to raise a family. I want to be a self-actualized person before I even think of being responsible for another human being. I think that rather than being selfish, that this approach is actually logical and considerate to my potential child and the rest of the world. Biology does not have to be destiny. Meanwhile, I’ll just borrow some babies to hold me over.

[Photo By Julien Haler]

Jessica Alba Launches Line Of Eco-Friendly Baby Products

Just months after the birth of her second daughter, actress Jessica Alba is adding the title of entrepreneur to her résumé, and launching a line of eco-friendly baby products.

Alba, along with Christopher Gavigan, father of two and former CEO of the nonprofit Healthy Child, Healthy World, founded The Honest Company, an online store that offers diapers, wipes, and household items that claim to be safer for babies and less harmful to the environment than most name brands.

In an interview with Forbes, Alba claims her the inspiration for the line came after learned how many toxic chemicals were used in the manufacturing of common household items and baby goods. After being unable to find anything that met her mommy criteria, Alba teamed up with Gavigan to create products that are non-toxic, safe, cute, easy to purchase and affordable.

Last May, while her The Honest Company was still in development, she even took her case to Washington D.C. in support of the Safe Chemicals Act, and was quoted in Reuters saying:

Even government officials aren’t aware that chemical companies don’t have to test their chemicals before they sell them to product companies. They can just put them in there, and we are the guinea pigs.”

The line isn’t available in stores but rather through an online subscription service where parents can purchase a month’s supply of diapers, to be delivered straight to their door, for about $80. According to the website, with every purchase The Honest Company will also donate to Baby2Baby, a nonprofit that helps families in need.

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Telling My Mexican Family: “Yes, I Want Kids, Just Not Now”

My grandma and aunts keep asking me when I’m going to start popping out some babies, now that I am living with my boyfriend. I’m 27 and my aunt insists that I will soon be too old and haggard to start a family. After all, I’m Mexican, and we often have babies young. I also grew up in the ‘hood, where teenage pregnancy was so prevalent that there was a daycare center in our high school. In addition, most of the women in my family had children in their late teens or early twenties.

I’m practically an old maid.

What my family doesn’t understand, however, is how much I don’t want children now. Not at all. I’d rather attend a dinner party hosted by a family of rats than have a child right now. And I’m not alone. For many highly-educated Latinas here in the U.S., the world is our taco, and we will not have babies cramping our style.

I’m currently indulging myself in things I couldn’t afford when I was younger. I occasionally like to purchase fancy beer cheese and other expensive gastronomic delights. A lot of my income is also spent on traveling, Before I settle down, I’d like to live in one more country and ride a camel or some other exotic creature. In sum, there is a lot I’m getting out of my system.

Before I even consider having children, I also feel I need to establish my career. After I get home from my mind-numbing corporate job, I usually just want to get home and write. I can’t even imagine having to care for a baby, too. My dream is to make a living as a writer or work in academia — Dear God, when will this Masters Degree pay off? I’m currently working on publishing a book. If that dreadful Eat, Pray, Love lady can do it, then so can I.

I also refuse to have children unless I can actually raise them myself. I hope to one day work from home or have a job with flexible hours. I don’t want to have to hire a Mexican nanny because I personally would like to be the Mexican taking care of my children. (Side note: this is so common that my Mexican sister-in-law is often confused for her own children’s nanny.) This economy is also so bleak and frightening right now. Before I have children, I’d like to make enough money to afford yuppie, organic food for them. I don’t want them growing up looking like little mutants thanks to all the hormones in our meat and dairy products.

There is a generation of young Latinas waiting to establish themselves in their careers and create more ideal circumstances before they take the gigantic step towards motherhood. For many of us, we are the first in our families to defy cultural expectations and traditions. Some of us experience a lot of criticism. I know that for some women, motherhood does not conflict with their career and life goals, which is great. But for me, it really does. Maybe I’m disappointing my family with my choices, but I try to make them understand that I’d rather be an older mother than an unfulfilled one.

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Latinas Benefit Big From New Insurance Guidelines

By Maria Elena Pérez, Interim Executive Director
National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health

Latinas by far disproportionately benefit in every area of the new Department of Health and Human Services guidelines that would eliminate costly insurance co-pays for birth control as part of the implementation of the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (ACA). Latinas have been writing to me today to ask what does this all mean? Despite the fact that much of the news coverage has focused on the birth control recommendations, Latinas stand to benefit in many ways by these new guidelines.

The decision to require new insurance plans to start covering birth control co-pays as soon as August 2012 is a huge victory for millions of Latinas and their families who every day struggle with the question of whether to buy food, pay rent, or forgo birth control and risk an unintended pregnancy. It reaffirms what many Latinas already know: birth control, by definition, is prevention. While we’re disappointed that HHS has suggested language that would allow religious institutions to opt-out of coverage, and we’re looking forward to working with them on this issue, today’s news is a welcome relief for millions of women who pay costly co-pays for contraception.

Latinas like Jersey Garcia, a working mom who was told she would have to pay for her IUD, is one such beneficiary. For years, Jersey used the IUD to prevent unintended pregnancy until she had it removed so she could start a family. After her planned pregnancy, she was surprised to learn that her insurance company now refuses to pay for a new IUD device and will only pay for insertion. The device itself costs $800, which she can’t afford.  She is also unable to afford the insurance co-payments for the birth control pill, which could be as high as $480 per year. Over a span of 30 years, women can pay upwards of $15,000 for co-pays and related fees for contraception.

Jersey and women like her are the reasons why last year we launched our first ever Latina Week of Action for Reproductive Justice focused specifically on this issue. And this past February, we continued our efforts with theBirth Control: Nuestra Salud, Nuestra Prevención campaign to lift the voices of Latinas and all women who have been advocating for access to prescription birth control without co-pays under the health law.

But beyond birth control, there is so much to celebrate today. For example, the HHS guidelines include improved screening for cervical cancer. The incidence of cervical cancer for Latina women in the United States is almost twice as high as non-Latina white women. Latina women have the second highest mortality rate from cervical cancer, after black women.  Yet cervical cancer is very preventable: 85% of women who die from cervical cancer never had a pap smear.

The guidelines also include services for pregnant women including screening for gestational diabetes and lactation counseling and equipment to help women who choose to breastfeed do so successfully. Keeping our babies healthy is a top priority for Latinas.   Studies have shown that Latinas tend to choose breast-feeding more than other women, and that reduced breastfeeding is correlated with lower incomes. For many Latina moms who are employed, breastfeeding becomes a luxury rather than a choice.  Yet, the benefits of breastfeeding for women and infants are critical to public health.  Breast milk provides nutrients and antibodies that protect babies from disease. Infant formula has not been able to fully replicate these protections. In addition, breastfeeding has been shown to reduce the risk of obesity, cancer, and postpartum depression in moms.

Also of importance are guidelines regarding screening and counseling for all women and adolescent girls for interpersonal and domestic violence in a culturally sensitive and supportive manner. NLIRH’s work on reproductive justice issues shows that immigrant women and lesbians may not report domestic violence or interpersonal violence and may not seek medical attention for fear of harassment or racism, something we documented in our recent report, LGBTQ Latin@s and Reproductive Justice.

By recommending that health care providers care for patients in a culturally sensitive and supportive manner, HHS is recognizing that patient care is not one-size-fits-all and has to incorporate the diverse needs of our community. It’s a remarkably different set of priorities to make being healthy the goal of healthcare, rather than simply treating illness.  I hope you’ll take the time to join me in thanking Secretary Sebelius for this historic step.

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Border Residents Delivered By Midwives Barred Entry To U.S.

By Jazmine Ulloa

Published: May 13, 2010

IT WAS JUST ANOTHER SWELTERING MONDAY MORNING in August. Yuliana Trinidad Castro sat in her truck with her mother, sister, and newborn daughter, windows up and air conditioner on high, waiting to cross into Brownsville from the Mexican border city of Matamoros. That weekend, like so many before, they had visited family on the southern side of the border. The trip back home, a sluggish procession across the international bridge through curving aisles of bumper-to-bumper traffic, was frustrating but familiar. The Castro sisters did it practically every week. “It was just so routine,” Yuliana’s sister, Laura Nancy Castro, recalled months later.

Then they reached the checkpoint. As always, the sisters, both American citizens, rolled down their windows and handed their entry documents to the U.S. Customs and Border Protection officer on duty, Eliseo Cabrera. Laura Nancy handed over her U.S. passport. Yuliana presented her daughter’s Texas birth certificate and her own, along with a receipt proving she had applied for a U.S. passport. Their mother, a Mexican national, presented her visitor’s visa.

The officer, Laura Nancy says, scarcely glanced at the documents—except for Yuliana’s. He examined her birth certificate and application receipt for a few moments, then ran the information on his computer. He was especially interested, the women would soon learn, in the person who registered Yuliana’s birth certificate—a once-popular midwife named Trinidad Saldivar.

Midwifery was once a cultural institution and an economic necessity for many along the border. Since the 1960s, the practice has almost disappeared as regulations for midwives, or parteras, have become more stringent—and as they were increasingly accused of falsely registering children of Mexican families as U.S. citizens. Until the early 1990s, Saldivar was one of the most sought-out parteras along both sides of the Texas-Mexico border. Following an investigation by the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service (as it was then called), Saldivar was one of more than a dozen Valley midwives accused of falsifying birth certificates. Some pleaded guilty—to avoid, they said, serving prison time. No one was asked which records they had been paid to forge and which were authentic, making it nearly impossible to determine which children had been delivered in the United States and which had not. Saldivar was never convicted, but her name was tarnished in the process—at least in the eyes of the U.S. government, which included her in a list of more than 230 “suspicious” midwives.

Maybe her name registered that morning with Officer Cabrera. But he appeared to be convinced from the start that the document was false, Yuliana has since stated in legal filings. He asked questions but ignored the answers, she says. He confiscated all four passengers’ documents, directed them out of traffic, and referred them for further inspection. What happened then, Yuliana’s mother says, “I would not wish on anyone.”

The three womens’ court statements tell the same story. They were taken into separate rooms and held for 11 hours. They were interrogated, mocked, harassed, and threatened with deportation or imprisonment—all, they say, to persuade them to sign confessions saying they held fraudulent documents. They were offered neither food nor water. Their requests to call for help or speak to relatives who’d come to the international bridge to look for them were denied. A cousin who wanted to see them was spirited away by officers, the sisters say.

“It was as if we had been kidnapped,” says the mother, Trinidad Muraira de Castro.

“I was so scared,” says Laura Nancy. “No one knew what was happening to us.”

Yuliana remembers hearing her baby, Camila, cry uncontrollably outside in the lobby while an officer interrogated her. She insisted she was born in Brownsville, as the certificate said. Her citizenship had never before been questioned, she told the officer, and if permitted, she could retrieve more documentation, including her mother’s blood work from a Brownsville hospital after Yuliana’s birth. In that icy little room, none of that mattered. “The officer continued harassing me, yelling at me, and telling me that I was Mexican and that he was going to deport me,” Yuliana, then 25, wrote in her statement. “After a while, I realized I had no way out since he told me no matter what I did, to him I was Mexican.”

It was all too much for her mother. Trinidad says she was grilled at length about falsified birth certificates she had indeed obtained for Laura Nancy and Yuliana when they were children—certificates saying they were Mexican citizens so they could attend school in Matamoros. Out of fear and exhaustion, she says, Trinidad signed a confession saying she had falsely registered her daughters as born in the United States.

That was that. By the time Trinidad, her daughters, and granddaughter were released, the sky was dark. Their entry documents had been taken away, and the Castro sisters were stranded in Mexico. What began as a “routine” return home to Brownsville had turned into a nightmare—one that would stretch over months, landing the Castros in a protracted legal battle and separating family members in Mexico and the United States.

They were not, they soon learned, alone. The Castros have filed suit in federal court against Customs and Border Protection. Their attorneys are seeking class-action status for the case, which could broaden its reach and have widespread implications along the border. The Castros’ experience last Aug. 24, their attorneys allege in court filings, was not an isolated incident, but a symptom of a systematic problem—a “window into the cases of dozens, if not hundreds, of similarly situated persons.” It’s also a window into the human costs associated with the U.S. government’s patchwork “crackdown” on illegal immigration.

NOT LONG AFTER the Castros were denied entry, a group of their U.S. relatives showed up at the Brownsville law office of Jaime Díez. An immigration attorney who has worked in the Valley for 12 years, Díez has become well known in the region for his pro bono immigration work, his strongly opinionated columns in a Mexican newspaper, and his weekly television commentaries on border and immigration issues for a Matamoros station. After he discussed the passport problem faced by U.S. residents returning from Mexico on one of his television spots, people started showing up at his studio.

Díez and other immigration attorneys in the Valley have heard of countless experiences similar to the Castros’. “Most people are totally unaware of this risk, which is why they fall into this trap,” says Lisa Brodyaga, who is working with Díez as a lead attorney on the Castro case. “We still do not know how often it is happening,” she says, because “when it happens to someone they end up in Mexico, cut off from access to counsel.”

Jessica Garcia, a Brownsville lab technician, was among those sent back to Matamoros without her legal documents. A few weeks later, after seeing Díez on TV, the 22-year-old Garcia and her mother went to the station to meet the attorney. She told him about her experience at a Brownsville international bridge on Halloween morning of last year—a morning that, she says, “changed everything, turned everything around for me.”

Two years earlier, Garcia’s husband had lost his U.S. work visa, and the family had moved back to Matamoros. Garcia kept her well-paying job at a Brownsville plasma center to support the family, which meant crossing daily through the port of entry.

Like the Castro sisters, Garcia had been delivered in Brownsville by midwife Trinidad Saldivar. Her mother, Ana Maria, remembers shopping in downtown Brownsville one day when she came across a colorful board on Saldivar’s front porch advertising her services. It was decked with a stork delivering a baby, she recalls. “Partera,” it read.

For Ana Maria, it seemed like a convenient way to have her baby in the United States and give her more opportunities. There was no need to commit fraud, she says. “If I had paid for a false document for Jessica,” she says, “I would have bought one for her older brother as well. But he is a Mexican citizen.”

On the ever-hardening line between the United States and Mexico, customs officials have long been accused of mistakenly detaining, deporting, or denying entry to U.S. citizens. Since a heightened security measure called the Western Hemisphere Travel Initiative went into effect last June, most of those targeted for interrogation at ports of entry, immigration attorneys like Díez say, have been U.S. citizens who present birth documents registered by midwives—people like Garcia and the Castro sisters, born in U.S. homes, not hospitals. (See “Locked Out”)

The new mandate requires U.S. citizens to present passports, passport cards, or other “initiative-compliant” documents when crossing from Mexico by land. Even before it was implemented, the requirement brought to light a series of complications faced by people born with the assistance of midwives. For years, the U.S. State Department had been rejecting passport applications from people whose births were attended by midwives, citing the forgery convictions. The issue came to widespread attention two years ago, when an increasing number of border residents began requesting passports to comply with the new travel-security measures.

Immigration attorneys say they began to see a stream of cases in which the U.S. State Department sent applicants in bureaucratic loops, asking them to provide all sorts of supplementary proof of citizenship—including newspaper birth announcements and high-school yearbook photos. Rejected applicants included children, senior citizens, U.S. military veterans and federal employees. The process was so arbitrary, says Díez, that some siblings in the same family would get their passports while others were denied. The Castros were a case in point: While Laura Nancy received her passport within weeks of applying, Yuliana had been asked to provide additional proof of citizenship—and was still waiting when she was denied entry last August.

In a class-action lawsuit against the State Department, the ACLU and immigration attorneys representing citizens whose applications had been rejected claimed that the department had “adopted a blanket suspicion toward one group of passport applicants.” In a settlement last year, the department agreed to initiate new procedures and training for officials taking passport applications. The settlement helped some, but many others’ requests remain in limbo, says Díez. Customs officers at ports of entry, like the ones who sent Garcia and the Castros back to Mexico, are not bound by the agreement.

“These are issues that should be handled in a courtroom, not the port of entry, where people do not have access to counsel, nor their constitutional rights,” Díez says. For many U.S. citizens still awaiting passports, border checkpoints are where their fates are decided, with customs officers serving as judge and jury.

Citing ongoing legal proceedings, U.S. Customs and Border Protection officials declined to comment about their procedures. Eddie Perez, public affairs liaison for ports of entry in Brownsville, would not say much, either. “CBP officials are not at liberty to discuss any cases under litigation,” he told the Observer. Perez said the issues can be difficult for customs officers to deal with. “We try to cover every base. We want to make sure every person we process is clear to enter,” he said. “Sometimes that process is long; sometimes it is short.”

For Yuliana and Laura Nancy Castro, the process has been long. Since their ordeal at the international bridge, a federal judge has granted the sisters permission to re-enter the United States, where they live with their husbands. But they can no longer visit their mother and extended family in Matamoros. Christmas and New Year’s were gloomy holidays, they say, spent around the dinner table in Laura Nancy’s Brownsville apartment, cut off from the celebrations of their Mexican family. Their mother is depressed, family members say, and has trouble eating. The separation has been especially tough on Laura Nancy, who was pregnant when she was denied entry and last month gave birth to a daughter. “My mother has not seen the baby,” she says, “only photos my husband has taken of her.”

Her husband and 3-year-old son, Polo, can still visit Trinidad Castro. Laura Nancy has trouble explaining to Polo why she can’t accompany them. “I tell Polo, ‘I can’t go. I am going to the doctor.’ I am always at the doctor,” she says.

Her son does not understand. Her teenage niece does. She planned to have herquinceañera this month. The coming-of-age ceremony is held on a girl’s 15th birthday. Her niece, Elvira Alexandra, had a band and dance hall booked in Matamoros, but she doesn’t want to have the party without her aunts, whom she calls her second mothers.

“Now the date is open,” says the girl’s mother, Maribel Ramirez de Castro. “It may seem like little changes, but they really affect your life.”

Adding Folic Acid To Corn Masa Could Prevent Birth Defects

[Editor's Note: The following is a press release from the March of Dimes.]

Fortifying corn masa flour with the B vitamin folic acid could prevent more serious birth defects of the brain and spine in the Hispanic community, according to a March of Dimes commentary published in the American Journal of Public Health.

Fortification of enriched cereal grains such as bread and pasta with folic acid was mandated by the Food & Drug Administration (FDA) beginning in 1998.  Since then, the rate of birth defects of the brain and spine known as neural tube defects (NTDs), which include spina bifida and anencephaly, has decreased by nearly one-third.

However, despite this success, about 3,000 pregnancies in the United States still are affected by NTDs annually and Hispanics have the highest rate when compared to other race or ethnic groups.

“Fortification of cereal grains with folic acid in 1998 is a public health success story. Adding this B vitamin to corn masa flour will build on that initiative and begin to address the disparities in these birth defects,” said Alan R. Fleischman, MD, March of Dimes medical director and lead author of the commentary. “Despite the fact that fortification has given thousands of babies a healthy start in life, it is imperative we address this serious health problem in the Hispanic community. Public health officials and businesses must work together to expand the success of folic acid fortification to corn masa and to the Hispanic community in the U.S.

Corn masa flour is made from specially treated corn and used to make products common in Latin American diets such as corn tortillas and tamales. Dr. Fleischman writes that by targeting traditional Hispanic food made with corn masa for folic acid fortification, it would be possible to lower the rate of NTDs among Hispanics, particularly Mexican-Americans.  Studies have shown that folic acid works if taken before conception and during early pregnancy.

Hispanic women are about 20 percent more likely to have a child with an NTD than non-Hispanic white women, according to the National Birth Defects Prevention Network.  Although the reasons for the disparity is not well understood, Hispanic women have been found to have lower intake of folic acid overall compared to non-Hispanic white women.

In order for corn masa flour products to be fortified with folic acid, approval of the Food and Drug Administration is needed. Many countries in Latin America interested in public health measures known to prevent neural tube defects already fortify their food products with folic acid, including Chile, Costa Rica, and Mexico. This safe and effective public health intervention can successfully decrease birth defects.

The commentary “Fortification of Corn Masa Flour with Folic Acid in the U.S.” was published online today by the American Journal of Public Health.

The March of Dimes is the leading nonprofit organization for pregnancy and baby health.  With chapters nationwide and its premier event, March for Babies®, the March of Dimes works to improve the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth and infant mortality. For the latest resources and information, visit marchofdimes.com or nacersano.org.

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“Anchor Baby” Is Always A Racist Term

I know that this latest round of immigration grandstanding isn’t the first time the term “anchor baby” has come into vogue. But as a woman, it’s the first time I’ve been in a place in my life where I’m beginning to consider becoming a mother. Though I do not have any children, it still hurts me to hear people (or read some of the nasty comments we get on this site) talk about human beings not only as objects, but with such complete disdain.

There’s no way you can use this term without a racist connotation; the term in and of itself attempts to delegitimize human beings as people and transform them into objects.

I think what bothers me the most about people in this country calling children — U.S. citizens, for that matter — by this ugly term is that it’s an outright attempt to make them inhuman, not like us. Then you can transform human beings into the cause of some problem. Then you can treat them however you like. Comparing historical events and contexts doesn’t ever really render accurate distinctions, but I believe that we’ve been down this road before.

The way the Christian settlers treated the Native Americans, comes to mind. Then there’s another deep cut in the American historical fabric — that of slavery — which as we all know fundamentally “otherized” Africans and their ancestors into being unworthy of education, humane treatment and so many other amenities it would be pointless here to recount them all. What about the Chinese during the 19th century? What about the Japanese during the 20th? Spiritually, emotionally, legally, intellectually, physically, fundamentally inferior in each case.

We’ve been down this road before. When you connect A, a group of people, to B, some sort of societal ill, it’s a lot easier to do if you don’t have to think of those people as human.

In this case users of this term have chosen legal status to leverage their disdain. If “those people” are not like you at all, well then, it’s almost like they deserve what they’re getting, isn’t it? And so, if they are deserving of the treatment you mete out to them, you are completely absolved of any wrongdoing. It’s a neat cycle.

When you call a human being “anchor baby,” you’re attempting to describe a feeling that I assume to be: that child does not deserve what me or my children deserve. When you call a fellow American “anchor baby,” what you are actually saying is: that American citizen is not like me, therefore I do not want “it” to be a part of my country. When you say about a mother that the only reason she came to this country was to “drop an anchor baby,” what you mean is: that woman is an animal and could not possibly love her child the way I love my child.

So if mothers do not feel, and children to not belong, and none of the people involved are deserving, that means you get to keep all of the resources and all of the power to yourself and believe you maintain some sort of moral high ground, now doesn’t it?

Now that we come to the end of the “anchor baby” thread, this seeming logic begins to make a shred of sense. Yet, I wonder if only we could move past all the hate and all the words and all the anger, and get right down to the point: the world is a scary and uncertain place and none of us want to lose the little that we have right now. If you can think of it that way, I think we could find some common ground. Of course, that would require that we find words other than “anchor baby” to get to know each other. As a matter of fact, it would require that we begin to get to know ourselves — and the real reason we choose the words we use.

Follow Sara Inés Calderón on Twitter @SaraChicaD

[Photo By Paul Goyette]

Arnold’s Telenovela Plot Line Less Fun In Real Life

I remember back when I first started joining my tías in watching telenovelas, the main character was one of those ever-pure types who somehow manages not to consummate her marriage to a man she does not love. Because, you see, she was really in love with someone else. In another, the women of the house begin to fall in love with the hired help, in yet another, the maid becomes the master’s victim or lover. We’d all watch, and criticize, and laugh, and scream at the TV, because it was all in good fun. It wasn’t real.

But when telenovelas become real, it’s not fun anymore. And what we’ve seen from the past few days’ worth of news coverage, when telenovelas become real life — as is the case with former California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger and the child he fathered with a former member of his household staff, a Latina — these things just simply are not as entertaining. Actually, they hurt. Quite a bit.

If you want more details about this deal, you can read our coverage here, but what I think is important to underscore here is that these themes we watch in telenovelas as entertainment — betrayal, adultery, lust, greed, heartbreak — are so captivating because they’re the things we fear most in real life. Think about it, there really isn’t anyone that wins in this whole painful ordeal. There’s his wife and children who feel betrayed and lied to, he’s lost his family, his former mistress was relegated to being the maid and his hapless, hidden son is now being thrust into the spotlight, having never really been able to know his father.

Que tristeza.

I guess if you want to get political, we can say that this shows just exactly what Schwarzenegger is made of. After all this is an immigrant who voted for the anti-immigrant Proposition 187 in California, who vetoed a bill to giving immigrants driver’s licenses, who now wants to joke about how bad Arizona’s immigration law is and has been asked by President Obama for advice on how to deal with the immigration issue in the country. This is the same guy who, after fathering a child without telling anyone with a Latina, called a Latina lawmaker “hot” tempered because of her ethnic background.

At the end of the telenovelas, the bad guys always get theirs and the good guys always see their dreams come true. But I can’t say what that would look like in real life in this situation. Will María forgive Arnold? Will his son become a part of the family? What happens next for the woman forced to be “la otra mujer” as she cleaned up after Arnold’s other family? Whatever the answer, I’m sure as is wont to happen in our culture, Arnold will be just fine, even as the women and children in his life are forced to pick up the pieces from his broken telenovela.

Follow Sara Inés Calderón on Twitter @SaraChicaD

[Photo Adapted From Bob Doran]

Guapura 101: Latinas More Likely To Have Kids

Latinas, according to new Census data, are much more likely to have children than other women. A press release from the Census notes that immigrant women (likely to be Latina) and Latinas in general were more likely to have children than other ethnic groups:

  • Foreign-born women were more likely to have ever had a baby than were native-born women by the age of 40 to 44, at 87% compared with 80%.
  • By age 40 to 44, white non-Hispanic women (20.6%) were more likely to be childless than Hispanic women (12.4%), black women (17.2%) and Asian women (15.9%). Black women were also more likely to be childless than Hispanic women. Asian women did not differ from black or Hispanic women.
  • Differences in childlessness by race and origin are more substantial for women who have never married. Among these women age 40 to 44, white non-Hispanic women were more likely to be childless (69.5%) than black women (27.8%) and Hispanic women (36.4%). No significant difference in childlessness among those who had never married was found between black and Hispanic women, or white non-Hispanic women and Asian women (65.8%).

More detailed tables are available here, but the gist of the story is that Latinas are more likely to have children than white women. Which, in the face of a growing Latino school student population, points to the fact that Latinos are going to continue to be an important part of the future of this country.

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The Nightmare Of The American Dream For Latino Families

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Mediante la convivencia con mujeres hispanas aquí en California me he enterado de la cruda realidad que viven los hispanos en Estados Unidos. La mayoría de estas mujeres tienen a casi toda su familia con ellas, (esposo, hijos, padres, hermanos, abuelos e incluso tíos). La que menos tiempo tiene viviendo en California son dos años, y las demás oscilan entre los 5 y los 30 años, sin documentos legales y sin regresar a su país. Lo que ha sido increíble es enterarme del micro sistema que han establecido para sobrevivir. Tienen unas pequeñas áreas llamadas “Mexiquitos”  como uno que está al Este de los Ángeles que es muy parecido a los que están cerca del Zócalo de México.

La mayoría de mujeres presentes en la conferencia tienen a casi toda su familia con ellas, (esposo, hijos, padres, hermanos, abuelos e incluso tíos). La que menos tiempo tiene viviendo en California son dos años, y las demás oscilan entre los 5 y los 30 años, sin documentos legales y sin regresar a su país.

Todo esto sucede en un país donde no son bienvenidos los: indocumentados, mojados o pasaporteados por estar fuera de la ley, son tratados como ciudadanos de segunda o tercera categoría, no cuentan con ningún derecho y además viven sintiéndose aterrorizados por la amenaza de ser deportados; de que se los cargue “La Migra”, como ellos dicen. En las primeras pláticas me enteré del gran esfuerzo que tuvieron que hacer para llegar a Estados Unidos, de todas las penurias y obstáculos que pasaron para sobrevivir mientras lograban encontrar trabajo; incluso hubo casos en los que las personas me dijeron que empezaron su estancia descalzos, sin casa y lo que fue más impresionante, sin saber leer ni escribir español, lo cual multiplicó sus dificultades y les facilitó a otros explotarlos.

Las experiencias vividas por las personas en su trayecto para pasar la frontera eran horribles y traumáticas, veían y vivían de todo, pero aún así los sostenía el “Sueño Americano” para, en este país, hacer dinero rápido, salir de la pobreza extrema en la que vivían y enviar dinero a México.

Ya estando en Estados Unidos, al principio los deslumbra pensar lo que podían tener y hacer, pero poco a poco los derrumbaba la terrible realidad.

Los padres, que trabajaban de sol a sol y en condiciones infrahumanas, soñaban con que sus hijos tendrían educación gratuita y las oportunidades que ellos nunca tuvieron en su país y que eso les permitiría ingresar en la sociedad sin ningún problema. Pero lo que los padres nunca esperan son las transformaciones culturales que sufrirían sus hijos cuando al iniciar a estudiar en diferentes escuelas con compañeros de este país ellos sus propios padres serían rechazados, incluso negados por sus propios hijos por ser mexicanos; este mexicanismo se da porque los jóvenes se avergüenzan de sus orígenes y sobre todo, del trabajo  y lo que hacen sus padres para sobrevivir.

Aunado a esto, el racismo no sólo se da de parte de los anglosajones hacia los mexicanos les afecta bastante. Los padres, sin comprender la cultura y mucho menos sin hablar inglés, se resignan a la vida que viven sus hijos, e incluso les llegan a tener miedo, por lo que ellos puedan hacer en la casa, ya que el ser agresivo es una cualidad aprendida para sobrevivir y admirada entre sus compañeros en caso de las pandillas.

A las mujeres jóvenes tampoco les va nada bien, ya que incursionan en un mundo totalmente desconocido, con reglas y valores totalmente diferentes para ellas, y en su afán de tener un sentido de pertenencia en algún grupo, y ser aceptadas, se incorporan también a las pandillas, lo que ocasiona que incursionen a más temprana edad en las relaciones sexuales, provocando embarazos no deseados y en el consumo de drogas, lo cual les permite ser aceptadas y reconocidas por sus iguales.

Las mujeres que tienen hijos en este país adquieren un sentido de superioridad, porque el hijo nacido aquí tiene derechos, pero esto es sólo una fantasía, ya que sólo es el hijo el que tiene derechos, pero ellas no y en cualquier momento pueden ser deportadas y separadas de sus propios hijos y será responsabilidad del gobierno el destino de ellos. Como ésta son innumerables las vejaciones que sufren los latinos indocumentados al vivir en Estados Unidos y aún así insisten en vivir en él. Cuando los jóvenes hablan acerca de sus proyectos de vida, se expresan resignados diciendo: si en México me muero de hambre, aquí de perdido vivo en un país importante y si quiero, algún día me haré rico.

Describir en una cuantas líneas lo que se vive en ese país es insuficiente, madres sobre-explotadas para darles lo mínimo a sus hijos y enviar ayuda a México, hombres perdidos entre el trabajo y el alcohol, jóvenes tratando de integrarse en un lugar donde no son aceptados, jovencitas en constante riesgo y, sobre todo, jóvenes perdidos al no tener su propia identidad, valores y cultura, ya que ni siquiera se consideran mexicanos, ni tampoco americanos.

Martha Sáenz is a life coach hyponotherapist who lives in Los Angeles. Follow her on Twitter at @marthalifecoach.

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